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1 Question Every Single Woman Should Answer for Herself– Not Everybody Else

Single women should answer the question for themselves, not everybody else.


“So, are you dating?”



Ugh. How loud do you groan when you hear that question? Do you route a path to the nearest exit or scan the area for objects you can use as a weapon or a shield?



To a bystander, the inquiry might seem like friendly, idle chit chat.  The problem with idle chit chat about dating is you can never be sure whether the idle will turn into The Inquisition.



You remember The Inquisition, right? That’s where fun-loving religious leaders tortured the heretics who did not adhere to their rituals and beliefs.



Kind of like being single in a marriage-first-last-always society.



Unless the asker is a stranger, it’s obvious, to you anyway, that he or she really wants know whether or not you are in a relationship and why are you still single???



The question itself, however, is like the riddle of the Sphinx, if the Sphinx was not the site of virgin sacrifices. Any answer can be right or wrong, depending on the person and the place.

The 7 Friends Every Single Woman Needs


“That’s the thing about friendship;

it’s a lot rarer than love, because there is nothing in it for anybody.”

Owen Wilson, in “Are You Here”



Friendship is mind-blowing.



Think about it: your friends willingly and voluntarily provide you with a near-endless supply of love and support.



Solely for the pleasure of your company.



And you do the same for them. Willingly and voluntarily. No quid pro quo.



The Hand that Rocks the Cradle is the Hand that Rules the Remote

my mother myself


Last week, you voted for your favorite heroine for our “Let’s Make a TV Show” project. By a very close margin, Rachel Dennis, IT security phenom and CEO of her own company, beat out Dr. Faith Goodacre, family therapist who doesn’t believe in marriage.


Show Genre: Drama/Mystery

Heroine: Rachel Dennis, CEO

Concept: Rachel developed an algorithm to enable dynamic authentication for commenters on websites while in college. She founded and continues to run a network security company that provides credentialing and certification cloud-based services. To date, none of her solutions has been penetrated. Realizing this unblemished record is statically impossible, Rachel quietly examines her own business and finds some troubling patterns, all while keeping her clients happy and competition at bay.


The next step in the project, at least according to the internet, is developing Rachel’s backstory. Before even what she looks like, we need to know the people closest to her. Since this is, we are not giving Rachel a spouse. But what about a mom?


 We will be adding friends and other influential people to Rachel’s life next week but in honor of Mother’s Day, and in recognition of that ‘the hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world,’ let’s figure out the mother-daughter dynamic—if there is one. 

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Carrie Bradshaw had a mother. We know this about the stylish Sex and the City star because, twice in seven seasons and two movies, Carrie pondered her father deserting her mother and herself when she was five years old. What was the impact and was it why she remained unmarried?



If You Want Something Done Right, Make A TV Show

Girl with a gun

“Life doesn't imitate art, it imitates bad television.” ― Woody Allen   Last summer, on a medical drama whose own death was premature but predictable, a 20-something woman was admitted to the hospital, bewildering doctors with her mysterious symptoms. Not me.     What took a team of neurologists and psychiatrists an hour-  a week in TV time – to diagnose, I nailed within five minutes.     “She has narcolepsy!”     This was one of the rare times something from my real life appeared on television.  My father is a narcoleptic. When I was a kid, the character’s strange behavior-- hallucinating and passing out a dozen times a day-- was normal in my house, even boring.     Note that this flash of my life before my eyes had nothing to do with me...

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10 Single Leading Ladies on TV Who Really Need A Friend

Cersei Lannister


Where would a single woman be without her friends?



On TV.



Yes, you read that right. On TV.



IRL, you and every single woman you know has gal pals, sisters from other mothers and/or school mates turned mates for life, not to mention neighbors and siblings.



Your life resembles Cheers better than anything you see on television these days. You go where everybody knows your name.



Yet, on the boob tube (pun intended), unwed women are loners. Whether the star of the show or supporting actress, a spinster seldom has close friends.

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